I’ve long wanted to be someone else; to be the fit one, the smart one, the talented one. Being an only child I never had the pressure growing up of meeting expectations and only started to feel that I didn’t quite measure up once I stepped out into the world myself.
And it’s something I’ve become more and more aware of as I chase my hopes and dreams.
I’d love to make it sound as though I had some big epiphany (because you know chorusing angels and blinding rays of light through breaking crowds sounds tres cool) but I didn’t need one. I’ve known for years that I am my own worst enemy, that I am my biggest critic and that I drag myself down time and time again.
I recently read that “comparison is the worst form of self-abuse” and that, although not an epiphany, was enough to make me wake-up and realise something; comparing myself to others was making me unhappy, no longer enjoy what I was doing or want to achieve my goals.
However, I have learnt to accept that there will always be people out there that I feel are slaying life, that are fitter than me and that are generally just killing it. I’ve learnt to accept that it is ok to admire these people, to idolise them even, as long as I don’t start to feel bad about being them.
Most of the people that I have come to follow online and that I love to see doing great things, winning at life if you will, get to do what they love for a living. they get to wake up in a morning and immediately get to work on their goals, spend their days chasing their dreams and creating new ones. That’s not me (right now), I should not compare what I achieve to what they do or beat myself up for not being ‘that good’ because I have other plates to keep spinning at the same time.
I’m pretty certain that many of you out there will feel in the same boat as I do, I’m even more certain that those that I adore and admire in the worlds of blogging, vlogging and influencers will feel this way too and I wanted to send a message to you all…
…It is ok to seek inspiration from those we admire, but we shouldn’t aspire to be another version of them. We should aspire to be the best version of ourselves instead. Love who you are, there’s only one of you and you are the best you that there is already. You just need to realise that.
Are you guilty of comparing yourself to others? I hope you like this style of post, let me know below and I’ll catch up with you again soon, until then though x
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