It’s OK

There seems to be a massive trend online at the moment where by people call others out because they have unfriended or unfollowed them and it isn’t just within the blogging community either. But believe it or not it is totally OK to do this as you grow.

Photography by Paul Dickenson at the Esperos Village, Rhodes | Bikini by VS Pink (similar)

Some friendships are just not destined to last and over time they naturally fizzle out and disappear. I mean in all honesty, how many people are you still friends with from your Primary School days? Back then I bet you didn’t lose sleep when you got to High School just because Joe Blogs didn’t make the effort to stay in touch after you spent years proclaiming yourselves besties.

No, you got on with life, you made new friends and you moved on.

I guess this is another downside to social media and the modern ‘online’ society that we all now live in, it heightens the tinniest interactions and can make then seem much bigger than they are.

But as you grow as a person, as your interests and focus change, so do your needs. These could be materialistic needs or social needs and by social I mean the type of people that you need in your life to help you build your goals.

I suppose its an evolutin of sorts.

Wold you stay connected to someone if what they posted online constantly made you feel unhappy? I for one certainly wouldn’t and I have (and always will) disconnect myself from people who post anything that I find remotely offensive, if I see them attacking others because of their beliefs or if what they put online upsets me.

Quite frankly I’d like my feeds to be filled with unicorns and rainbows (I know that will never happen by you know, I’m talking ideal world here) and not misery and suffering.

I’m not saying that I would disconnect someone for speaking their mind if they did so in an open and honest manner, we’re all entitled to opinons and just because I don’t agree with them doesn’t mean that they are wrong, it just means that we’re different.

Lets face it, the world would be pretty damn boring if we all acted the same and agree on everything wouldn’t it? Don’t they say that variety is the spice of life? Are differening opinions not just a type of variety?

But as you grow you will want to surround yourself with people who help you, who build you, who are heading in the same direction as you and that is why you should never feel (or be made to feel) ashamed of disconnecting from people. If they don’t make you feel like you, if they hold you back or try to drag you down move on.

And if you see that that girl you were besties with in Year 1 (but haven’t spoken to since the day you finished Year 6) or that blogger you thought was one of your online bae’s unfollows you, for the love of God do not call them out on it. You do not know why they have disconnected from you (even if you think you do), you do not know what they are going through and you do not know what those words could do to them. No matter how harmless they are intended to be.

Just do you boo.

Have you been on the receiving end of calling out online? Or do you disagree and feel that calling out is the way forward? Let me know below and I’ll catch up with you again soon, until then though x

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